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When the Plate Is Too Full: Learning to Choose You
We live in a culture that celebrates "yes". Yes to opportunity. Yes to growth. Yes to responsibility. Yes to being the strong one. But there's a cost to constant agreement.
Eventually, your time runs out. Your peace gets noisy. Your purpose gets cloudy. And the person you’re meant to become gets buried under everyone else’s expectations.
I’ve always asked God to give me options—to open doors, create abundance, and allow me to live out my purpose loud and proud. And He did. He blessed me with options so full, my plate started to overflow.
But here’s the thing no one tells you: You can’t eat everything on a plate that’s overflowing. You have to choose what you’re going to consume—what you’re going to nourish yourself with—and what you need to set down.
And sometimes, what needs to go… is what you prayed for.
The Quiet Chaos of Holding on Too Long
It’s easy to say you want peace. That you’re tired of the chaos. But when it comes to making the decision to let go of what’s too much—that’s where the real work begins.
Do I stay or do I leave? Do I try to fix it or do I set it down? Do I continue out of obligation—or do I honor my own capacity?
These aren’t black-and-white questions. They live in the messy gray area of being human—especially when you’re someone like me who knows what it feels like to lose it all and come back swinging. More than once.
Sexual Addiction. Failed relationships. Bankruptcy. Paralysis. Bad jobs. Bad business decisions. And life will continue to swing.
See, when you’re in a wheelchair, the world already sees you through a lens of “less.” So subconsciously, I’ve always felt the need to prove I’m more.
But there comes a point when being strong starts to look a lot like self-betrayal.
Responsibility ≠ Sacrifice of Self
Owning businesses. Running programs. Writing a book. Managing health challenges. Showing up when your body says no. It’s a wild, unpredictable ride.
But here’s what I’ve realized:
🛑 Just because I can do it all doesn’t mean I should.
🛑 Just because something once served me doesn’t mean it still does.
🛑 Just because I said “yes” before doesn’t mean I have to say “yes” now.
When I was younger in this journey, I thought life owed me ease because of my struggle. But I’ve learned—life doesn’t owe us anything. And that’s okay. Because I don’t want easy. I want aligned.
Peace Requires a Choice
The thing about peace is—it doesn’t find you. You have to choose it. Every. Damn. Day.
It’s not passive. It’s not a soft whisper. It’s a loud, firm boundary with yourself. It’s knowing that you don’t have to attend every fire, fix every problem, or show up for everyone but yourself.
You can’t become who you're meant to be if you're constantly consumed by what’s keeping you from her.
And that’s what I’ve been wrestling with lately. Not just whether to let go—but whether I’m finally ready to fully choose me.
This Isn’t Quitting. It’s Committing.
So many of us think letting go is giving up. But maybe it’s not.
Maybe letting go is actually the highest form of commitment. Commitment to your vision. Commitment to your peace. Commitment to your energy, your integrity, your becoming.
There’s no shame in choosing yourself. There’s only freedom on the other side of that decision.
So the question isn’t “can you handle it all?” The question is: Who are you becoming by continuing to try?
Because if it’s not making you better, If it’s costing you your clarity, If it’s exhausting your soul…
It might be time to set it down. And finally choose YOU.
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